I have panic attacks now due to a traumatic labour

I finally in 2011 had a cute baby boy this should of been the best day of my life but it was far from it after being told my baby was going to big, the doctor said I was to be induced on the 15th my due date being the 17th.

I went into hospital on the 15th and got induced the next morning they broke my waters and after a while took me to the delivery suite around 11, 30 they said at 3.30 I was 6cm yet at 9.30pm I was still only 6 he was back to back. They put in 2 epidurals which fell out a fentanyl drip which fell out.

I finally had him at 2.30 am in the morning. I can handle pain but this was horrible I went up to mat2 at 8.30 not one person came to me till 7pm and that was to check my baby’s blood sugar.

I saw them again at 11am the next day when I was allowed home, I asked if my baby was going to be checked they replied at ask why. I said it doesn’t matter then I had to ask if I should be on anti-clotting injections, in all the time I was in hospital (3 nights) I was given a salad sandwich. The midwifes who attended me on mat2 were rude and since having my baby I’ve had really bad anxiety and panic attacks and I know it’s because my labour was traumatic I’m 35 now and its put me of having more children

ASHTON12

Too-fast discharge from maternity unit at King’s

My sister-in-law was discharged from King’s within 12 hours of having her first baby. The room they were in was stripped down while they were still there. She had to be re-admitted a week later because of feeding problems. Taking the time to initiate breast-feeding my have prevented this.

Feederback

The birth of my son at South Tyneside Hospital

My son was born in this hospital 2 years ago; I have just discovered this website and felt I had to tell my story.

A week after my son was due my waters broke, I went to the delivery suite and was examined by a midwife, she said my waters had broken and I would be induced within 48 hours to prevent infection to me and the baby. She left the room and came back, said the head midwife didn’t think my waters had broke and to go home and come back on my planned day of induction if I still didn’t go into labour naturally, I never saw the head midwife she didn’t even come into the room I was in.

For a week I had regular contractions and dilated 3 cms, I was made to go in every day for a heart trace of the baby, every time they said I had a sleepy baby as his heart rate kept slowing, a consultant was called each time and said trace looks fine send her home. I would then hear the midwives whispering that they didn’t think the trace looked good.

On planned day of induction I was told there was no bed for me on the delivery suite, was taken to delivery next morning. The midwife I was given tried to break my waters, I told her they had all ready broke but she tried anyway, said oh there is no waters there!

I ended up having an emergency section, during the op the Anaesthetist was arguing with the some of the midwives telling them to shut up, they were also arguing in recovery.

The next morning I was on maternity ward, told to get up and go in shower, I was in agony and was shouted at by a midwife for been in so much pain as apparently she had a section and wasn’t in pain like I was. I was walked to shower then left. I couldn’t bend down to take surgical stockings off so had to call for help, was huffed and puffed at then left again

I was allowed home the next day, a week later after I’d had the staples removed I felt really unwell, I was shaking and my teeth were chattering, my husband said there was an awful smell and liquid was seeping out of my section wound

I was told to go to A&E. The staff on A&E were lovely. A Gynaecologist came to see me, she was also lovely, she touched my wound and it exploded. What seemed like litres and litres of puss went all over her, up the walls and on the floor, she said my abdomen had burst

I was taken back to maternity ward with my son and given 3 bags of blood and intravenous antibiotics. The next day 3 consultants and 2 junior doctors came to see me, they didn’t introduce themselves or say what they were going to do. A midwife was told to get forceps, and they whispered amongst themselves, a midwife was told to lift my stomach up (bit over overhang off pregnancy belly ) a junior doctor proceeded to rip open the part of my wound that had healed, I was offered no pain relief or told what they were doing, I was in absolute agony and screaming at them to stop touching me, they then all left the room

A few hours later a midwife and a auxiliary arrived and told me they needed to get the fluid out of me, this meant the midwife putting both of her hands on my abdomen and pushing as hard as she could, again this was extremely painful and I was crying out and asking her to stop, she didn’t, at this point my husband walked in and asked them what the hell they thought they were doing, she walked out with her head down. He went down to the staff room to ask what was going on but nobody seemed to know

After this my husband wouldn’t leave me and slept in the private room on a chair for a week, another consultant came to see me, said my wound had broken down and you could see my rectal sheath, he said my wound would have to heal from the inside out then it would have to be sown up again, a lovely midwife arranged for me to have a bottle of gas and air brought to me, I used this the 2 times a day the wound was cleaned and packed

A week later the consultant came back and said he would “fix ” me

I was taken into theatre and my wound was cleaned and repaired, I was in theatre for 4 hours

it was the worst experience of my life, the way I was treated was an utter disgrace.

anon1889

Premature baby at Queen’s Hospital

I had a baby prematurely at Queens hospital in romford. During labour, most of the staff were nice, minus one who was rude. I was seen very quicky and assessed and was let into a private room where they tried to stop my labour while i could have steroids to help develop my babies lungs. The midwife there at the time was great, however my mother said (i didnt really remember much myself) she almost dropped my placenta on the floor :S. I was treated pretty well, however i did notice as i came in that triage was full of women, in labour on the floor, the place seemed really disorganised. Also when i asked for toast i was given bread :S

Also at another interval i had to come back for my post natal check, previously i was discharged, although my little boy was still in hospital at the time. They put me in a room with lots of mothers with their new borns, kept me waiting for ages and with a dvd showing child birth and how important it was to bond with your newborn. Not something which was very nice to watch when you had to be seperated from your baby. I had to stay for my check, but i didnt go back for my 2nd. I think staff should consider the feelings of patients like myself more.

The majority of the staff in the NICU were very nice, minus a few. The first rude staff member i encountered was when i saw my son for the first time. We were discussing milk expression, i wanted to know how long you could keep it for and it was a lot to take in on the first day of being a mum to a premie, so i asked i doctor for further advice and he was happy to oblige, although the nurse wasnt happy and said to the doctor “i already told her what she was meant to do” and i can honestly say i left that place feeling rubbish. However that incident was topped by an incident where a member of staff was extremely rude to me, accusing me of not changing my child nappy and “paying more attention to his mouth care” which led to me bursting into tears and my mother and her having a heated row in the NICU. Also there was another nurse there would not take my son out of his incubator so i could feed him. She came over held him up in the incubator put the bottle in and when he was done she layed him back down a shut the door. There were also occasions when i came in to see my son and he had no clothes on, even though his drawer was full of clothes. There was also occasions when nappies were being taken from his drawer and my partner and i resorted to having to count them all.All the other nurses there however, were lovely and they couldnt do enough, however i believe some members of staff I met let the caring nurses down.

Since, my boy has being doing really well. He was transferred to King George, Goodmayes, which i preferred. In my opinion it was a more relaxed atmosphere. At the time there, i kept getting lots of colds, but the nurses told me not to worry, to ring in for his progress and hope i felt better soon.

My experience at Queens was mixed, my opinion however was that the kind staff out weighed the bad ones. I felt they let the others down. From my experience I also think there needs to be major improvements regarding triage, as I found it quite disorganised.

hayhaysmummy

Good care at the birth of my daughter

Throughout my pregnancy I had various issues and found myself at East Surrey hospital on a few occasions!

On all occasions I had exceptional treatment. At the start of July 2012 my waters broke (due date 27th July 2012), I called the Rusper ward and was advised to go in for a check, it was confirmed that my waters broke. I was kept in and advised that I wouldn’t be leaving without a daughter ๐Ÿ™‚

I was then told the following day that I would be induced if I didn’t go into labour naturally. I did go into labour naturally and throughout this process helped by a member of staff called Marion Saunders.

Marion went high and beyond to help me through the pain sitting holding my hand, breathing with me through the night and allowing me a warm bath late at night. She was amazing and I cannot thank her enough!

When I went down to the delivery suite the midwives there were amazing also, my midwife Anne Evans was brilliant, really caring she helped me through the entire process including when I ended up having an emergency Caesarian due to my daughters waters breaking.

All of the staff in theatre were really good and extremely relaxing and I didn’t feel at any point there was a reason to panic (although there was) my partner, daughter and I are all eternally grateful to East Surrey hospital and the staff!

Greatfu happy new mummy

Traumatic birth made a lot worse by Airedale Hospital maternity service (1st baby)

Went into labour at home, waters broken so went to the delivery suite to be assessed after being put on a machine for monitoring for 30 mins I was send home and advised I needed to rest at home and that I was unlikely to give birth for another 12-24 hours. I was shocked as waters had broke and contractions were 5 mins apart.

I got home obviously in terrible pain and after only being home for 1 hour then gave birth without any paramedics or midwife support just the father to do the work of the NHS.

I then went via ambulance back to Airedale for assessment as did our beautiful new son and we were quickly moved into a private room on ward 21. This is where things went from bad to worse.

We called the buzzer numerous times only for midwifes to come 20 mins later. We started timing it after they never came in any urgency. Then the proud father went to complain at the desk, to be informed they didn’t know anyone was in room 3 and that they didn’t have anyone assigned to my room and thats why we hadn’t seen anyone all afternoon.

We then asked to be discharged, as were not getting anything from being there and it took them 4 hours to get the paperwork sorted. It was basically a traumatic experience of the nhs from start to finish. I would not recommend airedale on all counts. I will go as far to say I think that the parts we experienced are at breaking point and unsafe.

Tina Sparkle

The treatment received from QMC was exceptional

From the moment my husband and I were having a baby, the treatment we received from QMC was exceptional. At our 12 week scan we were referred to the FMM clinic for a CVS which was conducted within an hour of our first scan. Dr Alec McEwan was fantastic, explaining everything to us and getting the test results back within 24 hours. It made a worrying time bearable as the wait was over very quickly. We were impressed with every visit that we made for our scans throughout the pregnancy. When I went into labour, all the midwives that looked after me gave me the utmost care and respect, ensuring that I had choice throughout. Clare, the midwife that looked after us predominately was absolutely fantastic. After my baby was born we were so impressed with the post-natal care. I fainted in the shower after the birth and within seconds there were several midwives helping me and a doctor to check me over. I really couldn’t speak more highly of the QMC and the staff, thank you very much!

Raccoon325

York maternity – I would never go anywhere else

Waters went on the Thursday evening within 15 mins contractions were so strong they took my breath away. Phoned labour ward up who told me to try manage at home for next hour and to phone back.

10 mins later felt contractions incredibly strong and as was baby number 3 was expecting a fast delivery. Hubby called for an ambulance as we are 60 minutes away from hospital by car.

Arrived at YDH labour ward where it was found I had meconium in the waters. I was examined and was told I was 7 cm dilated. I was then taken down to delivery.

I was hooked up to various machines re examined where I was told I was only 2 cm! I wasn’t very happy but as I was in so much pain and already there I was told to stay.

The baby was in a difficult position and had her hand next to her face so tracing her was a nightmare. I was adamant I wanted as little intervention as possible however after my heart rate and the babies went crazy and she was in distress up shot was that after 12 hours of a brilliant team of midwives, students, consultants, anaethetists (best man in the world!) I was rushed down for an emergency c section.

It was not what I had planned at all but the care before during and after was by far the best out my 3 children. Nothing was too much trouble. They even arranged a meal for hubby!

Everything was explained what was going on. I was never left alone and as I suffer from depression. I was supported 100% all through my stay.

My daughter ended up in special care for a few days and I was transferred to a side room. All the staff from cleaners to the surgeon who came to make sure I was ok after the surgery to the registrars and consultants were simply the best.

I had a difficult pregnancy and was very worried about the birth but I needn’t have been. Quite frankly I would never go anywhere else to have a baby. I simply couldn’t fault the service in any way.

squidge08

Some experiences of Barratt Maternity Home

I concur with the story already listed…..staffing appears to be the biggest issue at this maternity home. I have had three children at the home over a 12 year period and I’m due to have my fourth later on this year.

I chose to go there rather than to Kettering, as it is familiar and I have struggled to hear a good report from Kettering.

I have had two c-sections and one normal delivery. My last pregnancy was complicated by an onset of pre-eclampsia so I had to stay 3 weeks before my sons birth and another week after that.

The midwives do care and have a good sense of humour. I felt better treated in my later pregnancies as I was older and had more experience, whereas I was seen as young and incompetent as a mother at 20 years old. The ward I stayed on had been refurbished since my first in 2000, and was secure and clean.

This time however I will prepare myself with shed loads of food, they just don’t provide portions sizeable enough for pregnant women who are obviously feeding for two. A friend of mind would bring in bags of food, just so I wouldn’t feel starved.

But saying that, I would definitely choose there than anywhere else. On a couple of occasions the nurses were sympathetic to the fact I had my blood pressure taken constantly through the night that they would cradle my son after feeding during the night to allow me some rest which was a Godsend when you don’t have your partner there for 12 hours at a time. I have stayed in both the private rooms and the bayed ward and can say that you can’t beat having your own privacy in a room, as most of the women on the ward spoke very little English so it can be lonely.

Knowledge is power, so go prepared, with snacks to last and Internet access to find out how to look after your newborn on line, cause quite frankly no one there has the time to help you…..sad but true! These women work tirelessly, due to staff numbers their expertise cannot be fully appreciated.

The experience was positive enough for me to consider a career in midwifery myself, so that’s saying something.

TCM4

My terrible birth story

I am expecting my second child and it’s only now I can tell my story of my first birth experience at Leighton. I had wonderful care from the midwifes leading up to the birth, but I think all that changed when the baby arrived.

I was 12 days over my due date when I was admitted for an induction. I arrived at the hospital on the Friday and was kept waiting in the waiting room for about an hour until my bed was ready – I was a bit perplexed as to why I was kept waiting, because when I arrived on the ward all 4 beds were empty. I was made to feel very welcome by the midwives and some of them I recognised from my appointments. I was given a gel to try and start the labour and was told I would have a maximum of 3. I started to feel discomfort after about 10 minutes so I was hoping things were on their way. No such luck!

I was administered three gels and still only dilated by 1cm by Sunday I was exhausted because I had no sleep, the internal exams were painful and I felt the consultant was really rough to the point that I cried when they walked in the room. The consultant said that they wanted to give me one more gel on Sunday morning; I was mortified, tired in pain and felt really fed up. Sunday afternoon my parents and husband got me walking up and down the corridor and finally at 5.45 the contractions started. I was checked again at 10pm and told that I was only about 3cms, but then the pain started to really intensify. I pleaded with the midwife for some pain relief but she said I was fine, I was given pethadine at 11pm and slept for the first time in 3 days for 20 minutes. The pethadine then wore off and I was crawling the walls, I told them it had got worse and I felt like no one seemed to be listening, they were coming thick and fast.

Eventually the midwife said to me that they’ll take her downstairs give me an epidural to keep me quiet. When I arrived downstairs I was greeted by 2 fantastic midwives, they gave me gas and air and I immediately felt relief. She checked me and went blimey you have done well, you are 9cms – I don’t feel like I had done well at all, I feel like I had no choice. In my opinion, I was just left with no pain relief because I felt like they didn’t believe me.

They then took the babies stats and they realised he was in great distress – I wasn’t surprised. They did some tests gave me and epidural and then whisked me off for an emergency C-Section. My son was born on the Monday morning at 6am. He was gorgeous!

I was then taken to a side ward and really looked after on Monday, although I was so out of it I wouldn’t know. On Tuesday the midwives came in took out my tubes, drip etc and thus ends my care. I was put back on the ward and was made to feel like I was left alone. It took me 45 minutes to get to the toilet because I had to crawl there. I could hear my baby crying and I couldn’t get back and visiting hours had not started. I was really in severe pain and my legs didn’t work properly.

I did not get any assistance breastfeeding and one midwife said to me they were too busy, just give him a bottle, which he projectile vomited everywhere. My breasts were so sore because I didn’t know what I was doing and I was in tears.

By Thursday I felt so fed up with the care, I discharged myself so that my husband could look after me at home.

I feel petrified about the prospect of this birth and have opted for an alternative hospital. I am sure this isn’t a reflection of everybody’s experience but I would not like to go though it again. Some of the midwives were fantastic and I am sure they were under a great deal of pressure because it became very busy after my son was born. I just pray that my next experience is better.

Cheshire Mummy